The silence is deafening.
But here is the problem with a well-built house: eventually, it becomes a prison.
And that’s the secret. The changeover isn't a single event. It's a way of living. You don't go through a changeover and then arrive at a permanent destination. You learn to dance with the demolition. When the dust finally settles—and I promise you, it does settle—you will not recognize yourself. But in the best possible way. The Changeover
Let yourself change.
Let the changeover break your heart wide open, because that is the only way to let the light in. Have you experienced a major changeover in your life? Share your story in the comments below. You never know who might be standing in their own rubble, needing to hear that the collapse is not the end—it’s the beginning. The silence is deafening
But the collapse is the gift. It is the wrecking ball. And you have to let it swing. The changeover is not a weekend retreat. It is a long, slow, excruciating season of not knowing .
I can tell you that the worst of it—the raw, weeping-in-the-shower phase—lasted about four months. The rebuilding—the tentative, hopeful, "maybe I'll try that pottery class" phase—lasted two years. And the integration—the phase where you finally look in the mirror and recognize the stranger as yourself—is actually ongoing. It never really ends. The changeover isn't a single event
The job that once paid the bills now suffocates your spirit. The relationship that once felt like a lifeboat now feels like an anchor. The city that once buzzed with possibility now feels like a static map you’ve memorized too well. You wake up one Tuesday, not because anything catastrophic happened, but because nothing has happened in years.