There is this unspoken pressure to be hard. To be tough. To have skin like leather and a heart that doesn’t flinch.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, sitting here with my coffee getting cold for the third time this morning (baby brain is real, momma). We live in a world that tells us that to survive, we have to build walls. That to be respected, we have to be loud. That to win, we have to be ruthless. bibian norai
It’s apologizing first even when you were technically "right." It’s praying for someone who hurt you instead of plotting revenge. It’s crying during the sad movie even when everyone else is laughing. It’s admitting you’re tired when the world expects you to say "I’m fine." There is this unspoken pressure to be hard
I look at my daughter, and I see it. She falls down seven times, but she gets up—not with a clenched fist, but with open arms reaching for a hug. She doesn't mask her tears. She doesn't apologize for needing me. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately,
October 26, 2023